Holistic health and life coach Ludmila Smirnova, assists clients in releasing tension from their bodies and their lives. Her passion is to help people reconnect with the wisdom of their own bodies, then making decisions based on cues sent from their bodies. Ludmila is a founder of Groove Dance studio as well. She enjoys going outside, dancing Groove, and having coffee in the morning. Did we also mention how amazing she is?
Most of us are eager to see what can be improved in our lives when we begin a new year full of new hopes and relief in starting again. We decide or resolve for the new year-at least, to lose that unwanted weight, to earn more money, or to improve relationships-with the optimistic belief that “this will finally be it.” The problem is that only 8% of people who set resolutions will actually do something with them.
Perhaps the best time to discuss WHY New Year’s resolutions don’t work is now.
WE ARE ASKING A BIT TOO MUCH OF US.
In our culture, everything is either all or nothing. Either we want to go all out and do everything flawlessly, or we don’t want to do everything. How many times have you put anything off until you have all the necessary knowledge and tools? You probably have a closet full of supplies that you purchased for a project but haven’t used yet.
That “all or nothing” mentality ignores the work you put in to get here, the length of time it took you to gain weight, accumulate significant debt, or keep drawing the wrong kind of person into your life.
By taking care of the symptom:
- The fundamental issue persists even after I lose fifty pounds,
- earn over $100,000,
- meet the right person, and so on.
Now let’s take a closer look
It could appear like the ideal way to find Mr. or Ms. Right, lose weight, or increase your income. Furthermore, there is nothing wrong with wishing for ANY of those items. A closer examination of those opening lines reveals that they are a mirror of your connection with your body, finances, and, in the end, with yourself.
How about expressing your desires differently?
- I’m willing to eat healthier and exercise because I’d love to feel better overall and have more energy.
- Most days, I’m willing to make healthier choices because my body works so much for me and deserves better care.
- I will say “no” to requests for help because I value my personal time and attention and I want to avoid feeling overburdened and rushed.
- Speaking my loved one’s love language on most days is something I will purposefully do because my connection deserves more attention.
- I might as well learn how to be my own best friend since I’ll be with me until the day I die.
Can you see how this operates? What you want to alter has a specific purpose and is based on your lifestyle. That’s ultimately what we hope to achieve.
Throughout the procedure, be kind with yourself
Give yourself some grace instead of making things huge, intimidating, restricting, and unachievable so that it won’t be as hard to encourage yourself to get back on track when life does get in the way. There really is no “there,” and you don’t have to wait for a fixed amount of time to feel like you’ve failed if you don’t complete your task inside it.
Never forget that you are not the only one who can bring about change. Get yourself a support system of people you can trust to assist you in achieving that level of increased self-worth and self-awareness.
You will reach your desired “there” if you have a larger picture in mind and make a daily commitment to YOUR wellbeing.
Do you need some help getting started? Consider taking up some relaxation techniques. It’s much simpler to hear your heart when your body and mind both calm down. When you learn to hear that silent voice within you and follow its counsel, you’ll never make a mistake. It requires practice, just like anything.
Guest article from apneaboom.com